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How many girls have you asked out? How many straight nos have you received?

Back in college I asked out a string of girls, big string, tried to ask one a day for a while and learned several things.

1.) A girl will give her number to a stray dog.

2.) You can tell a girl wasn’t interested if she doesn’t pick up her phone, or you receive a call from her boyfriend.

3.) If a girl gives you a straight no, thank her, she just refrained from wasting your time.

I went through the full scenario at a conservative estimate at thirty times. Pretty frustrating, but the good that came out of it was that it made me dedicated to understanding the whole issue of men and women.

Here’s the deal, women are human beings. Being human, just like the rest of us, they want to avoid hurting someone’s feelings and avoid confrontation. It’s a lot easier to just give a guy your number (interestingly enough I never received a fake number, she just didn’t pick up), than to give him a straight no and risk a conversation where a guy demands she explain why she won’t go out with him. Not a pleasant prospect.

At first I was angry, stayed angry for a while. The worst part was hopes being raised by getting a phone number, and then being dashed. Again and again. And Again. When a girl gave me a straight no after fifteen flakes I verbally thanked her for not wasting my time.

The fact of the matter is things are a lot more complicated than they were in my father’s day. According to him the standard sequence was, you asked a girl out, she said yes or no, if she said no you acted like a man and moved on. If she said yes and after a few dates declined again, you acted like a man and moved on. Saved women the unnecessary experience of having to justify herself and saved men from a lack of clarity. Not so now.

What’s the solution? Get better with women in general. The more attraction you generate on the front end, the more likely she is to pick up, and I tell you it feels great when you finally hear that voice on the other end of the line.

Next, accept it for what it is. If a girl doesn’t pick up, leave a message, ask her to respond, if she doesn’t move on. Don’t take it too hard if it doesn’t go your way. If she isn’t straight with you, it’s not a serious failing. Don’t get angry, don’t get bitter, it’s just the rules of the game as it stands. If it happens a few times, no big deal luck of the draw.

If it happens thirty times in a row, check for a whole in your game. Move forward, get feedback, adjust course. Don’t overthink, don’t underthink, remember your principles. As long as you move forward and adjust based on feedback it will get better.

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On a gut level we all know that if we don’t have real hope about something, we can’t move forward to getting it. We know that real hope, the belief that something good is going to come our way, is kind of the fuel of real courage, real guts. I also know that a lot of my attempts to impress women failed because I didn’t really think I had a shot, but was just going through the motions. That’s why finding out that a girl likes you beforehand makes it A LOT easier to “be cool” around her. You have hope, so you take heart and charge in, because you know that the risk is small.

This is why it seems difficult to have better social skills with women in general. If you’re talking to a girl that you don’t know you’re flying blind with regard to whether or not she likes you. And, I know it was true for me, that I had a general attitude that the cards were stacked against me. I also didn’t think that there was anything I could really do, not really, to change myself.

Why did I think this way? Because I felt it. Somewhere along the way I picked up enough bad experiences to implant the idea in my mind and the feeling in my body that, hey, you know you’re not good enough. There are only two opinions in the world you can never escape from, God’s opinion of you, and your opinion of yourself. So, my opinion was no good.

Get the Woman You Really WantSaying that you have to get success first, to believe that you are capable of attracting women is backwards. If you don’t start out believing “I am good enough”, then you won’t get success, or, if you do, you’ll still feel like a fraud. But, the good news is that if you come from this place of hopelessness, you don’t have to stay there.

The key is to get your beliefs in line with reality. The fact that you have free will, that you can make better decisions, learn new skills, is a fact. Read bios of people who’ve turned their lives around. Look for success stories. Look at the Bible, where people are consistently blessed by God for doing right, and reproved for doing wrong. God is not cruel, I don’t believe He is harsh on people for things that are beyond their control. I also don’t think He’s arbitrary, He blesses people who please Him, and what they do to please Him is under their control. But, it’s a fact that gets sidelined in the face of bad emotions and memories of past failures.

“Manliness” is a virtue, it’s the chief thing that is attractive to women and is heavily under our control. The key exercise is, when faced with a memory of past failure, or bad emotions about interacting with women, is to consciously reject it as untrue that you can’t do better. Then act like you can do better. Course correct.  A little courage, and you’ll find you feel better about yourself and your prospects almost instanteously.It may be a while before your feelings and beliefs  consistently (every time) coincide with each other, where you not only improve, but feel great about the process (and positive emotions shine through to women, very attractive), but it’s a nearly inevitable result.

Small steps towards acting by by the truth, and rejecting hopelessness not only as unpleasant, but as false, will reap some of the biggest rewards in your relationships with women, perhaps more than anything else. It’s foundational.

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Are free dating sites worth the time and effort of registering and uploading a profile? This is a question many people ask when looking for love online.

Online dating is a great way to meet someone when you find yourself single, but which site is best? There are hundreds to choose from, sites to cover every niche. The biggest decision is whether to opt for a paid dating site or a free site.

Premium dating websites such as Match.com and E-Harmony can work very well, but the sign up cost is often very high. In some cases the member will sign up and have difficulty in cancelling membership. The premium sites claim to have a better more serious database of members and so your chances of meeting Mr or Mrs Right is higher than that of a free dating site. This is not necessarily the case though, there is no written or proven rule that indicates whether a paid dating site is more fruitful than a free one.

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With free dating sites such as Free UK Dating Site, the members can register for free, same as Match etc, but they have access to more features and the pressure is not so high to sign up and part with cash to use the site to its full potential.

Most site should allow you to browse for free, but some paid sites do actually have a limit to how many profiles you can view in one day, they will also no longer allow you to wink for free. The free wink feature is extremely useful when browsing potential partners. The reason being that you can gauge if the person you’re viewing is also interested in you, by winking back. If you get a wink.. it’s likely you will have an email back should you choose to register fully and email that person. Not always the case but quite often.

How do Free dating sites make their money though? Well, many make their money from hooking you in, once you start receiving interest then it’s worth registering fully to capitalise on your previous encounters. This then generates revenue for the dating site, the other way in which free dating sites make money is from selling the database of members. Data is big business and unfortunately if you have signed up to a dating site it is likely that sign up will be worth money further down the line, you just need to make sure that you read the terms and conditions before you join and not part with any unnecessary personal information. One free dating site which will ask for additional information is Plenty of Fish.com, they ask for the number and age of siblings in your family and you must fill this in to use the website. They also use raunchy sexual adverts which lead to premium sites.

In all, any dating site which has a good and up to date selection of members is worth a try, but free dating sites will probably leave you feeling less frustrated if you don’t have much luck.

What is what is looking for a man in a younger woman? What is a woman looking for a man younger than her? “By launching this question, we would say of say input and point blank what the older man seeks to feel young and powerful and seeks a representation of social success.” And the young woman can find a father figure or one greater stability or even a maturity that she didn’t find at her own age. ,”responds Delfina Miéville, sociologist, sexologist, and agent of equality. However, they have a gender bias. And this, in turn, adds a cultural bias: “we are a more aging society, but at the same time we are younger (30 is the new 20). This is the demand of modernity: be productive longer.

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In this way, and this social framework in the background, extrapolated to relationships, we are to understand, explains Miéville, healthy relationships have, among their many conditions to be equal. That is, there are no power relations among its members. Currently, adds Bolinches, women already does not seek both the protection of man, but instead the man, as a general rule, still looking for the comfortable relationship. Man, he says, want, normally, be it the admired.

The man generally, starting at age 45-50, indicates Coronado, have a need of reaffirming, and looking for relationships so in younger people. For its part, the women at that age, the need to reassert itself is given by the fact of the conquest itself, therefore age do not have so much to do in this case. Their self-esteem is reinforced on the basis of the conquest. And not so much sex as the men. But, insists, this does not always have to be to
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Of-course, nudism is unlikely to solve these problems on their own. But it can be a great way to network.

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Now think about it, what is the one thing lots of couples are concerned about? Will he/she run off and leave me for another person? Commonly affairs occur when one partner is seeking something which is lacking in their relationship. A lot of times this is simply some sexual excitement. Face it, if we don’t learn some new tricks this dog is going to get old. When you have sex with someone else you basically have no option but to spark things up. They will have their own sexual “tricks” to teach you which will generate some ideas of your very own.

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What Swinging Is Not?

Wife-swapping, which is such a sexist phrase that implies both inequality and power over the lady partner. You absolutely need to understand that in spite of what you may have heard, women and men are equally as sexual. This is very obvious with swingers. So it is a mutual understanding amid swinging couples to get rid of their inhibitions and really enjoy their sexuality with another person.

Swinging is also not “cheating”. How can you be cheating if your spouse is right there with you? Swingers don’t venture out behind each others’ back searching for sexual trysts. They would rather experience things in each other’s company with absolute trust that they are a couple and their bond is stronger since they are able to share everything with each other.

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Why Swing?

Besides the apparent motive of better sexual pleasure, and obviously the excitement, swinging is very stimulating, many people find the regular world so woefully sad and boring after getting started. I have heard swinging referred to as RECESS for adults. In school, recess for youngsters is a lot more important than people realize–not for all the old reasons: fresh air, relaxation, exercise–but for an even vital reason: it gives children a chance to bond in a real way with their friends and other kids by playing. As kids get older, they take recesses away just a little at a time until by high school they have no time to play and thus no time to connect with other people in a meaningful way. By the time we are full grown, we are totally disconnected from our fellow human beings, leaving us anxious, lethargic, and dreadfully lonely (and willing to settle for just about anybody because we are so desperate to feel reconnected). The lifestyle is the antidote to so much of that! It’s recess for grown-ups. Then after recess we can return to pulling the wagon and not moan too much about it.

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With increasing work pressure and less time for recreational activities to get rejuvenate; there is a rise in demand for local swingers. People can contact them and call them or take them wherever they want to have best of time in bed and feel relax. But many people do not get indulge in foreplay and directly jump into penetration, which is not right way of take pleasure out of this heavenly act. Sex is all about giving complete time to your partner, in which both partners feel completely lost in each other, they become irresistible for each other, and after this when they feel each other, that feeling is awesome, simply out of the world and a heavenly feeling.

People believe that sex must be, can only be, romantic and so attach a great deal of earnestness to the experience. Local swingers are there for people to make them feel importance of this gift of god, they are into this business, because they want to experience everything of sex and this thought of them makes some people motivate to fulfill their dream desires of sex and feel best out of it. Thus, if you are also opting for swinger, you are on right track for a better life in terms of relaxation and fulfillment of your under cover desires.

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Obviously Clive, Yvonne, Mel and other committee members are still available on their personal telephone numbers but it will if you use the above number when evere possible. The new number can be transferred from committee member to committee member thereby giving all the committee the opportunity of answering queries from members and enquiries from new people.

As you know Clive and Yvonne intend to take a less active role as they approach retirement so the new number should also reduce their incoming phone calls and provide a better service to members and new people alike.
In the autumn of 1975, in an effort to improve elementary artistic skills, I went to a local evening institute figure drawing session back which was when plans changed surprisingly unexpectedly. The new and keen students were filling the studio ready and eager to start but no model had arrived. The tutor apologised profusely for the delay but after some fifteen minutes wait, and still no model, he asked if anybody was willing to stand in as our model.

This must be easier than drowning I thought Alan so I volunteered. “Would you mind removing your shirt” he asked as I made myself comfortable on the dais. Despite the inevitable fear I managed to remain reasonably still.

The following week Duncan ‘phoned’ in desperation just as I was about to leave for the class, having been unable to contact the appointed model would I do it again please? This time possibly wearing tight briefs or consider going nude. I hesitatingly agreed and he immediately waived the term’s fee and offered to pay me instead.

I had begun to enjoy the new pastime, a world away from my full time career, I must confess. A female model posed the third week and I was able to join all the other budding artists over coffee where several congratulated me on having saved the first two evenings and asked if I would model regularly. When asked if I minded standing naked I surprised myself by saying it did not trouble me. I was, without realising it, launching into a vacation or leisure pursuit that has continued almost to this day.

Word must have spread quickly among artists, sketchers, evening institutes, sculptors and the such for I was soon receiving many bookings from far and wide in fact during the eighties I was often modelling three or four nights during the week and more at weekends. My wife, although initially fairly uneasy at her husband appearing naked in front of a class or an individual, soon came round to thinking it was rather amusing.

Having occasionally posed outdoors in secluded settings, I have been the ‘focal point’ in large country houses, grubby student common rooms, splendid studios, village halls, private houses, you name it I have experienced the setting. I have stripped out of my normal clothes into a robe in all places from toilets, workshops to broom cupboards.

Discuss about the problem in the relationship and solve them.Individual therapy or couples therapy can assist you enhance relationship skills.You want to explore different ways that can assist you in the present relationship.It is highly essential to be honest and sincere on what you need from the relationship and from your companion. Maintaining a healthy love life with each other will lead to have good life, good children etc.

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A relationship becomes unhealthy when it ends up being improper or wrong use of words and also hurtful.it is established that in several cases, certain partners are exposed to common violence. An individual that has become older where they are steadily viewing psychological and physical misuse in the normal atmosphere will most probably think that it is a ideal casual part of the life.Relationships usually want to be worked on.It may be began with a frustrated feeling of one for each other, but steadily maintaining that love and affection is completely different in practical.Completely knowing you and your partners differences, accepting them and working on these differences, will in possibility create the romantic relationship less troublesome to handle.Simply attempt to maintain it healthy, and this will surely create you both the partners grown and flourish not simply as persons but like an exceptionally happy partners.Those who are maintaining good relationship are always communicating. 

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Checking in on regular basis and solving the problems can assist issues not fester. The couple must sit and discuss about their concerns, feelings and wants without any confrontations.Spending your time with your companion is very important.There are lot of activities which both the partners can perform together, create trust and commit each other.Being supportive of your better half is actually essential because it shows that you admit them and need to motivate them.Give support and words for the loved ones interest, hobbies and passions.Beautiful things occur if you have one in your side.Do not allow problems and hurts fester.People do not like to be in the relationship where one companion is being indirect expression of hostility.

Often having been thanked for modelling and not showing qualms about appearing nude it is surprising the people who comment that they are house and garden naturists and thoroughly enjoy the feeling. – At one time Prince Charles showed a keen interest in life drawing which inevitably prompted a media interest which in turn brought me approaches by the national television networks to appear live during a morning programme at a fantastic fee but I declined the offer.

I have enjoyed working in some unusual places but probably one I will always remember was about twelve years ago in a bitterly cold greenhouse at a Cancer Hospice near Aylesbury. The patients, about a dozen men and women were so grateful to be given instruction in the techniques of sketching the human figure by a Friend of the Hospice, who herself had cancer and has since passed away, made me especially welcome. There have been many amusing incidents.

Madnat are to hold another of the highly successful Skittles Matches on the 1st April 2016 so why not join the rest of us on ‘All Fools Day’ at the Goddard Arms in Cliffe Pyparde . The evening will start at about 7.30pm, with a break for food during the evening, and end when we have finished trying to play skittles. It doesn’t matter whether you’re an expert or a novice the idea of the evening is a fun night out for ALL our members and guests. Another chance to bring your friends, neighbours, relations and Mother in Law! Let them see that we are normal people.
Notice is hereby given of our Seventh Annual General Meeting to be held at 6pm on Saturday 26th February 2000 in the Seminar Room at the Marlborough Leisure Centre. All members and visitors are welcome to attend, but only fully paid up members are eligible to vote.

 

 

Once again in excess of 90% of our membership have already renewed their membership and have paid their subscriptions. It is your club and it is up to you to support the Officers and committee by letting them know what you like, what you don’t like, and where you feel changes are needed we are always looking for ideas and for volunteers to help in many ways. – One of our big worries this year is the swim at Faringdon it is losing heavily at present so do you want us to carry on throughout the year? So far attendance’s are not enough to cover the costs so decisions must be made.

a: Do we increase the swimming fee? b: Cut the hire time? c: Try a scheme to bring in local naturist to Faringdon?

Bearing in mind that we already advertise in the area.

The Club now has it’s own telephone number which is 07092 031130. Please make a note of this new number as it will be manned by committee members who will have the up to date information for the current week and immediate future. This is important for sexual health.

Also have you tried the Internet and looked up the Web Page, which is proving a great success with over 15,000 visits since its inception last May for which the Club owes a great debt of gratitude to David Baker and PDSolutions.
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No not cricket, although the English Teams can always reckon on being caught bowled or beaten at what is supposedly an English game, nobody but nobody spotted the deliberate mistake. The November issue of Barefacts was issue number 42, but not one person noticed that it was shown as issue 41, so the prize remains unclaimed.

In the autumn of 1975

In the autumn of 1975, in an effort to improve elementary artistic skills, I went to a local evening institute figure drawing session back which was when plans changed surprisingly unexpectedly. The new and keen students were filling the studio ready and eager to start but no model had arrived. The tutor apologised profusely for the delay but after some fifteen minutes wait, and still no model, he asked if anybody was willing to stand in as our model.

This must be easier than drowning I thought Alan so I volunteered. “Would you mind removing your shirt” he asked as I made myself comfortable on the dais. Despite the inevitable fear I managed to remain reasonably still.

The following week Duncan ‘phoned’ in desperation just as I was about to leave for the class, having been unable to contact the appointed model would I do it again please? This time possibly wearing tight briefs or consider going nude. I hesitatingly agreed and he immediately waived the term’s fee and offered to pay me instead.

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I had begun to enjoy the new pastime, a world away from my full time career, I must confess. A female model posed the third week and I was able to join all the other budding artists over coffee where several congratulated me on having saved the first two evenings and asked if I would model regularly. When asked if I minded standing naked I surprised myself by saying it did not trouble me. I was, without realising it, launching into a vacation or leisure pursuit that has continued almost to this day.

Word must have spread quickly among artists, sketchers, evening institutes, sculptors and the such for I was soon receiving many bookings from far and wide in fact during the eighties I was often modelling three or four nights during the week and more at weekends. My wife, although initially fairly uneasy at her husband appearing naked in front of a class or an individual, soon came round to thinking it was rather amusing.

Having occasionally posed outdoors in secluded settings, I have been the ‘focal point’ in large country houses, grubby student common rooms, splendid studios, village halls, private houses, you name it I have experienced the setting. I have stripped out of my normal clothes into a robe in all places from toilets, workshops to broom cupboards.

The tutor, leader or class generally set the pose and whether it be standing sitting or lying it is most important that the model agrees at the outset if it is not possible to hold it for three minutes, two hours or two weeks (with relax breaks). Most students are very reasonable but a few will sigh if you blink or slightly move to avoid cramp. – People from all walks and ages take up life drawing and painting, often commenting on the therapeutic value gained from exercising mind and skill with pencil, charcoal or brush.

Often having been thanked for modelling and not showing qualms about appearing nude it is surprising the people who comment that they are house and garden naturists and thoroughly enjoy the feeling. – At one time Prince Charles showed a keen interest in life drawing which inevitably prompted a media interest which in turn brought me approaches by the national television networks to appear live during a morning programme at a fantastic fee but I declined the offer.

I have enjoyed working in some unusual places but probably one I will always remember was about twelve years ago in a bitterly cold greenhouse at a Cancer Hospice near Aylesbury. The patients, about a dozen men and women were so grateful to be given instruction in the techniques of sketching the human figure by a Friend of the Hospice, who herself had cancer and has since passed away, made me especially welcome. There have been many amusing incidents, which hopefully

I may be able to share with you through the columns of Barefacts in the future.

Alan Feast

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